Well, its easy to blame the dealers but please keep in mind dealers have policies they have to adhere to that are contractual with Ford.
Ford's policy is the tech has to verify the claim. You are asking the tech and the dealership to lie to Ford.
And what happens if a tech applies a TSB that wasn't verified, doesn't fix the problem, or the problem get worse, or new part wasn't the issue and causes a failure of a worn previously unidentified part?
Ford and or ESP will not pay the secondary claim and the dealer gets stuck.
There is far more behind the scenes going on and High Command has actually spent time dealing with all these things behind the scenes in the d-ship warranty dept.
There's a lot of things dealers would love to do for their guests but cannot or risk an audit, losing blue oval certification (which is a ton of money), etc.
For these reasons I see it the opposite, I wouldn't want to go to a dealership that blows off their commitments and responsibilities to Ford. What makes you think they are going to hold up their end of the bargain with you?
We all have jobs with responsibilities and policies we must adhere to. There are plenty of policies I disagree with at my job but I get paid to enforce policy, not make it. Car dealerships aren't any different. As frustrating as this is for you the dealership is behaving correctly. I can also tell you if this were me, I wouldn't get any special treatment either.