I understand your fustration and the hardship of finding a solution to your problems can be overwhelming,my dealer is a 3 hour round trip for me,the best thing is to locate a dealer,for instance a tuner friendly dealer,but in your case one that will perform the TSB reflash of the transmission which is one hour labor tops,buy the shop forman or service manager some coffee or lunch,it doesnt hurt,best of luck to you and keep us updated.Z.