Downpipes add HP. Most exhaust options don't make much difference. If you want "Noise Fluff" (which is what I wanted )just add a pair of Magnaflows in place of stock mufflers. Paint them black like stock and the dealer won't know the difference.
Haven't tried K & N intake, but AirAid definitely increased my IAT Temps and kept temps from cooling down quickly. If you want a working CAI then do what 4 DR did and make sure the round filter is into the fender area behind the drivers side headlamp. I crafted a similar setup and it definitely runs cooler than other CAI's including stock. Again... it's mostly "Eye Candy"... but that's what many mods are, and that's a GOOD THING!
Looking back, the 2 most beneficial mods I have done are the H & R's... with max performance tires - Handling is terrific... and the tranny tune. Tranny tunes come with the performance tunes and Torrie's (Unleashed Tuning) is definitely the best from my own driving experience. Performance part is also just as good, if not better than others, but in DD mode, smooth shifting is most rewarding.
H & R Springs do not "Pogo" in my opinion, and I have been running them for over 50,000 mi on our DD Flex. This is with "Max Performance" tires that are inflated to around 40 PSI.
Ride is firm but not rough or Pogo... My wife prefers it to our G8's which have stock suspensions.