Ok so had some time to look at things a little closer today to try and diagnose where this oil is coming from and also look at the split turbo hose.
here's a closer pic of the split. the rubber coupler still clamps firmly onto the turbo outlet so it MIGHT not be causing the leak but of course it will be replaced.
(yes i ghetto rigged a wire tie there for now lol)

does anyone know if you can buy just the front piece of the saxophone hose like this?

as far as the oil issue . . i didnt find any smoking guns and the issue seems to have mostly recessed as of late. i'm not getting major pooling by the throttle body after WOT like before. then again i haven't done full 1/4mile pulls like at the track.
there's some oil residue around the turbo inlet and outlet flanges but nothing that's super concerning for your average ecoboost.
I am admittedly not experienced at inspecting turbos but i did check for shaft play. didn't get any side to side and maybe a VERY small amount front to back. almost couldn't notice it at all.
so nothing that screams out as a problem overall.
i was almost expecting to see oil pooling when i removed the hoses but everything was relatively clean

if anyone has any input please don't hesitate speaking up.
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