Conversations like this always make me laugh.
Let's say at 365TQ, your tranny will last... 250k
When you got to 450TQ, Your tranny will last less, Let's say 100k
When you push it to 600+ Your tranny will probably last a couple of pulls.
It's all about torque, and it's mostly about heat. The more friction and heat soaking your clutch packs take, the less time your transmission will last.
I've toasted PLENTY of AT's to know about this. There is no Safe horsepower (Torque) because these aren't perfect machines that operate without friction. The more friction and heat the less time it will last.
Are there people who get crazy numbers and get some good millage out of it. Probably, it's the internet. If you have thousands of dollars to burn you can push it hard and find out if you're one of them!