You could just do what I do; make sure when you talk about the cars and performance and such you drone on long enough with techie details until you can tell she's tuned you out, then start to transition into alllll the wonderful goodies you've got planned (BUT, make sure not to look too excited...they can sense your happiness and that sends a signal that you must be doing something you're not supposed to, so that will snap their attention back), just stay nice and monotone and keep blah, blah, blahing right through all the important stuff.
THEN, after your install, when the wife's all; "WTF!?" you can just say; "but babe, we talked about all this, don't you remember??"
An important note here is this: Sure, this has worked every time...but it's been on GIRLFRIEND...and not WIFE so be careful!

I was married once...